God is the answer to a fearful heart:
Psalm 34:41 "sought the LORD, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears."
Do not focus on fear; focus on what is true or real:
Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable --if anything is exellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."
God is with us in every situation:
Joshua 1:9 "Have I not commanded you? Be stong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go."
Isaiah 41:10 "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will stengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."
Isaish 41:13 "For I am the LORD, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you."
Fear of no Protection:
Psalm 91:4 "He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart."
Fear of not being provided for:
Matthew 6:26-33 "Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, "What shall we eat?" or "What shall we drink?" or "What shall we wear?" For the pagans run afer all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."
Shared by Patty B.
Monday, January 24, 2011
Sunday, January 16, 2011
10 Ways to Propel Your Challenging Child to Greatness!!
by Howard Glasser, MA
Author of Transforming the Difficult Child – The Nurtured Heart Approach
and All Children Flourishing – Igniting the Greatness of Our Children
1. Resist the trap of accidentally energizing negativity! It happens all the time in subtle ways.We accidentally celebrate negativity when we give it our time, energy and relationship. In that way we are sending are child the message that we are willing to celebrate “non-greatness” because that is accidentally what we are most present for.
2. Realize that all the less energetic words or approval like “good job,” “way to go,” and “thank you” and such, do not begin to touch the realm of greatness. They energetically barely scratch the surface compared to the energy we give to what’s wrong.We need to go to the level of “radical appreciation” in order to leave a lasting impression of the greatness we wish to cultivate.
3. Greatness is a choice and for our children to eventually choose greatness on their own we need to “choose” to see greatness and bring it into the realm of things we discern, recognize and appreciated.
4. “Catching a child being good” will not serve you in propelling greatness. There is a much better lens which is “creating” greatness by the way we choose to take advantage of the moments of the day and mirror back what we see, detailing the great qualities the child is showing by the choices he is making in the moment.
5. Children led to feel like they are great by the way we reflect and attribute greatness, come to act-out greatness. This is a much better way of acting out.
6. Instead of giving discussions, lectures, admonishments, warnings, threats, etc. when a rule is being broken, give the energized lectures and appreciation many times a day when rules are NOT being broken. Be willing to flip the switch on your energy 180 degrees.
7. Make these moments super-energized by feeling the gratefulness and emotion that is authentically there. After all, if you have a child who is very disrespectful, then the truth is that when the disrespect ISN’T happening, it is glorious and wonderful.
8. See these moments of following the rules as your child making a great choice because the truth is that your child could be breaking the rules and the great news is that she isn’t at this moment. It isn’t just happening. She is choosing to follow the rules.
9. By doing this you are making yourself the energetic prize. Your connection and relationship is the gift of your giving, so if a rule is broken, just say reset and momentarily remove YOU—the prize.When the rule is no longer being broken, even seconds later, make it your mission to stay in the truth of that next moment and be willing to celebrate that choice of your child having stopped the problem.
10. By celebrate, I do not mean giving things and money, I simply mean giving of yourself. Giving of yourself means opening up the treasure trove of your heart and letting the words of appreciation flow.
Gratefulness Full of Greatness Greatness!
Shared by Patty Billingham
Author of Transforming the Difficult Child – The Nurtured Heart Approach
and All Children Flourishing – Igniting the Greatness of Our Children
1. Resist the trap of accidentally energizing negativity! It happens all the time in subtle ways.We accidentally celebrate negativity when we give it our time, energy and relationship. In that way we are sending are child the message that we are willing to celebrate “non-greatness” because that is accidentally what we are most present for.
2. Realize that all the less energetic words or approval like “good job,” “way to go,” and “thank you” and such, do not begin to touch the realm of greatness. They energetically barely scratch the surface compared to the energy we give to what’s wrong.We need to go to the level of “radical appreciation” in order to leave a lasting impression of the greatness we wish to cultivate.
3. Greatness is a choice and for our children to eventually choose greatness on their own we need to “choose” to see greatness and bring it into the realm of things we discern, recognize and appreciated.
4. “Catching a child being good” will not serve you in propelling greatness. There is a much better lens which is “creating” greatness by the way we choose to take advantage of the moments of the day and mirror back what we see, detailing the great qualities the child is showing by the choices he is making in the moment.
5. Children led to feel like they are great by the way we reflect and attribute greatness, come to act-out greatness. This is a much better way of acting out.
6. Instead of giving discussions, lectures, admonishments, warnings, threats, etc. when a rule is being broken, give the energized lectures and appreciation many times a day when rules are NOT being broken. Be willing to flip the switch on your energy 180 degrees.
7. Make these moments super-energized by feeling the gratefulness and emotion that is authentically there. After all, if you have a child who is very disrespectful, then the truth is that when the disrespect ISN’T happening, it is glorious and wonderful.
8. See these moments of following the rules as your child making a great choice because the truth is that your child could be breaking the rules and the great news is that she isn’t at this moment. It isn’t just happening. She is choosing to follow the rules.
9. By doing this you are making yourself the energetic prize. Your connection and relationship is the gift of your giving, so if a rule is broken, just say reset and momentarily remove YOU—the prize.When the rule is no longer being broken, even seconds later, make it your mission to stay in the truth of that next moment and be willing to celebrate that choice of your child having stopped the problem.
10. By celebrate, I do not mean giving things and money, I simply mean giving of yourself. Giving of yourself means opening up the treasure trove of your heart and letting the words of appreciation flow.
Gratefulness Full of Greatness Greatness!
Shared by Patty Billingham
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